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When I found out my husband had been cheating on me, I felt like the ground had opened up beneath my feet. Suddenly it felt like anything I had believed in was unsure. After some reflection I realised that I had been blind about how badly our marriage had been going, and I can't live in that lie anymore. The only way through the darkness is to leave the lies and cheating behind and start over in my life, committed to honesty in all my relationships. This blog is all about my journey through separation and divorce into my new honest life.


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Top Signs That You Need to Hire a Child Custody Lawyer

by Walter Porter

Divorce brings with it a myriad of issues, especially when children are involved. Spouses have to think about custody issues and child support contributions. In some cases, both parties agree amicably on the two critical issues, leading to a smooth divorce process. It is not uncommon for some people to self-represent during child custody hearings. However, child custody proves to be a significant problem in some instances, requiring the services of a child custody lawyer. This article highlights top signs that you need to hire a child custody lawyer.

Inter-Jurisdictional Child Custody Case 

One of the first signs that you need a child custody lawyer is if your ex lives in another state or country. The reason is that child custody laws differ significantly from one state to another. Therefore, if you decide to self-represent, you need to learn a lot more about the child custody statutes in your ex-partner's state of residence. It can be difficult if you know little about child custody laws. As such, you need to hire a lawyer, preferably one who practices in the same state or country as your ex-partner's residence.

Ex Is Setting up Children Against You 

Child custody cases can get nasty, especially if exes are not on good terms. In some cases, you find one or both parties badmouthing each other to the kids to gain undue advantage. For example, your ex might tell the kids that you are violent or keep bad company. Such lies can affect the children's perception of you and play a role in who they choose to stay with. If you suspect that your ex is setting up your kids against you with lies, you should hire a child custody lawyer. They will gather evidence regarding your ex-partner's misgivings, ensuring that you have a fair child custody hearing.

You Suspect that Children Are in Danger 

As a parent, the safety of your children is paramount. Therefore, you should be well aware of the conditions that they are living in when you are not around. For instance, if your ex-partner plans to remarry a person you suspect to be a drug dealer, then you have a right to claim full custody of the children. Similarly, if your ex-spouse has a history of leaving the children unsupervised, you can claim that they will be in danger if left in your ex's custody. A child custody lawyer is best placed to argue your case and guarantee success, ensuring your kids' safety.

To get help, start by reaching out to a local family lawyer.